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I was friggin horny this morning. I just had to come home and blog about my horny day. I work in a boring office, but we are right near a University and the job attracts tons of hot-looking guys who are recent grads. Shit, I love it. It might not be the best job in the world, but man, oh, man, the eye candy. So, I guess sometimes I get horny thinkin about the hot guys before I even get there. I know at least one of two of those twinks gotta be gay.

I had my usual mornin wood when I woke up. But instead of waxin it right away, I decided to wait. I took my shower, put on my tightest snap-on cock ring, and got ready for work. On the train, I was so hot just thinking I was hidin a big ol gay hard-on and sex toy in my pants.

I went in like usual, talked to the boss, and got a real good look at the new kid who works across the hall. H-O-T. I actually got so stiff at one point, I didn’t even feel like I could walk around, so I sat at my desk sort-of working, and sort of working my cock. The cock ring felt so tight and once in a while I’d give myself a little stroke under the desk.

Finally, it was lunchtime, & I decided to take a little time in the bathroom. My drippin precum was my lubricant, and I jacked it right there and splooged the sink. I was just thinkin of how bad I wanna suck that new guy off.

Last night I was waiting around for the trick-or-treaters to come collect their candy, and I started thinkin’. I’m not really that much of a costume guy. But after a while, I realized the ridiculous popularity of Hannah Montana. I don’t know how many Hannah Montanas came to the door! Maybe it was just my basic queeny horniness, but I started to wonder what it would be like to have a Hannah Montana drag queen over to play with for the night.

I imagined that the next Hannah Montana that came to my door wasn’t a little girl, but a slim and muscled man in sexy pre-teen clothing. It was getting late, so I closed up the candy shop and went to my bedroom to continue the fantasy. My Hannah Montana would follow me in, and lie down on the bed. I’d tell “her” I wanted to introduce her to my little friends… and I’d pull out my favorite gay sex toys. I took off my clothes and imagined Hannah there with me with a short skirt barely hiding the bulge behind it.

I had my cock firmly in hand and the lubricant was abundant as my mind wandered to what I’d do next. My Hannah was going to take it in the ass. So as I slipped my favorite anal toy into my own eager asshole, I thought about my Hannah on her boy-bitch knees, about to take first a sex toy or two, then my hard dick, while she still wore that little skirt hiked up on her waist and a super-gay bleach blonde wig. Ah, sweet relief came quick with that fantasy.

A lot of guys don’t really know that much about the use of cock rings when they first get into the gay scene. There is always more one can learn about sex toys in general, and thankfully, today there are a lot of sources for information for everyone interested in the subject.

Cock rings, first and foremost, serve a function. They help keep blood in the erect penis, thus allowing a man to keep an erection harder and for a longer period of time. The size and style of cock rings are just about endless. Some are like simple o-rings, some have an addition to cradle or squeeze the testicles, etc. For some men with erectile dysfunction, using a cock ring really makes the difference between the ability to achieve penetration or not, while others seek the good feelings produced simply by having a strong erection.

For others, wearing a cock ring is all about fashion. They are available in all colors and various materials. In clubs, baths, or other places where men may be nude or seeking sexual activity, the sight of a cock ring on a man may be a turn-on. As with certain articles of clothing, the rings may be experienced by some as a fetish item that provides excitement on its own aside from its function or gay fashion statement.

How many times can this happen, I meet a guy, he digs me, I dig him, we have some drinks, a date maybe two (if he’s a little less forward than I) and then we mess around a bit before I bring him back to my place and then well then the newbie can’t hang with a few gay sex toys. It’s not so much that these boys aren’t curious or willing, they for the most part are, but it seems too often that these boys are intimidated by the toys, like they’d never lubed up an anal plug or wrapped their hard candy in a cock ring before. The worst ones though are the ones who are openly opposed to the use of toys? I mean come on ladies!!!! We already exist on the edge of public acceptance,! We lead the charge in expanding the boundaries of social acceptance in the public world; shouldn’t we be the forerunners when it comes to the bedroom too? I mean for Jesus sake, it can NOT be argued that we have the market cornered on giving head, shouldn’t we build on that and corner the toy and apparel mastery as well? (PS- I am not blaspheming; I am referring above to my little latino friend Jesus who occasionally sneaks by my place for a little leather daddy fun)

Well, I’ve always been pretty much of an oral guy for most of my life as a gay man. I am still young, but I have to admit I’ve been around the clubs and have managed to suck a lot of cock by now. I’m not complaining.

Doing anything anal never really appealed to me- not even with my most trusted boyfriends. I don’t know what did it, but I was looking online at some gay sex toys and I just got curious. I haven’t explored with a partner yet, but so far I think I have found my new favorite thing.

I bought an Anal Trainer Kit (Colt), and it has really been a good addition to my personal sex life. It has three nice, pliable butt plugs. I wasn’t intimidated because the smallest one is only an inch around at its widest. I know that a lot of gay men are really into size, but I also knew it is best for me to start out a little slow. Now I can take the biggest plug with no problem. It’s really a delicious feeling that I wish I’d tried sooner.

Q: I am a gay man, relatively new to anal sex. The one thing I have learned is that if I am going to be penetrated, a lot of lube is seriously important. Does anyone out there have a sense of which are best, or even what kinds are out there? Thanks for any info.

A: There are a lot of lubricants to choose from. One primary factor is that you want to choose one that is condom-safe. That means, always look for one that is labeled “water-based,” “safe for use with condoms,” or something similar. Since you are new to this particular game, you may be interested in desensitizing as well as lubricating—remember that the popular Anal Eze is NOT condom-safe. Try Pjur’s ANALyze Me Relaxer Spray and add a lubricant that works best for you. You will have to find out what kind of feel you like – Doc’s and Astroglide make some good ones. If you want taste as well as feel, there’s always Fruity Booty. Hope this helps. Here’s to good lovin’!

Recent studies have shown that standard condoms are just as safe for anal sex as they are for heterosexual vaginal sex. The key to making condoms, whether they are standard strength or specifically for anal sex, as safe as possible and keeping them from breaking is using lots of lubricant to reduce friction. The two biggest issues with using lubricant for anal sex is making sure you use enough lube and making sure you use the right kind.

Oil based anal lubricants, or lube alternatives like massage oil, lotion, and hand creams, can actually damage a latex condom. A damaged condom is much more likely to fail you when you need it the most. You can use oil based lubes if you use non-latex condoms.

Silicone and water based lubes are a must if you use latex condoms. But keep in mind that if you are also using silicone gay sex toys you can ruin them by using silicone based lubricant. Water based lubricants will work with all condoms and all gay sex toys but it will need to be reapplied often as it can dry up.

I am leaving this week for my first trip ever to a Gay resort in the Caribbean. I am newly out and am looking forward to the trip with both enthusiasm, and trepidation. I don’t know if I’m being silly doing this, but when I start something, or take on a new interest; I FULLY immerse myself in it. For instance, I decided to try golfing and before I hit ball one at the practice range, I bought the whole golf outfit and all the accoutrements, gloves, hat, shoes and FULL set of not so inexpensive clubs, only to find out after a LONG afternoon of walking across a giant lawn from hole to hole, that I can’t STAND golfing. Well, I am nothing if not consistent in my habits, and as SOON as I went on-line and booked my reservations, I came over here and began filling my shopping cart with everything I imagine I could need or want for a week long “loosening up” vacation. I mean I got Jo Lubricant and Eros Anal, both Gel and regular silicone, I picked out anal beads and plugs, I’ve got cock rings in there and a whole closet’s worth of fetish wear. I even went ahead and got a male strap on in case… though, I don’t know what the hell I’d do with it? I am going to see what they have to say on the Resorts boards about what I should bring for standard fare (clothes, sunscreen etc), but I thought I might find some more boudoir specific advice here on Tabu. Thank you in advance my new friends-

When it comes to buying a cock ring size _does_ matter. If you buy a cock ring that is too large it won’t do a damn thing for you. A cock ring that is too small will be near impossible to put on or take off, will hurt (and not in a good way) and can actually be pretty dangerous. You can find a pretty wide selection of adjustable cock rings and I recommend them whole heartedly to first time buyers.

If you feel ready for a non adjustable cock ring you’ll need to measure yourself, hard or soft, right at the base of your penis. It’s good to keep in mind what material you want your cock ring to be made out of. A rubber cock ring is going to have a little more give than one made out of metal- but that doesn’t mean you can buy any old size one if the cock ring is made from rubber.

You will quickly learn to tell if the cock ring you’ve bought is right for you as soon as you slip it on. A cock ring is put on when you’re soft, not erect. If you’ve gotten the right size the cock ring will go on pretty smoothly. It won’t fall off when you’re soft and it will come off without hurting you when you’re hard. Lube can always be used to make it easier to slip a cock ring on or off, but if you find you have to use a lot of lube to do so comfortably you probably need a slighter larger cock ring.

When she is a “her,” at work and such, she is Patrice, but I have witnessed Paul, the real person inside, the man who feels relief and joy to be fully expressed in the world. I have come to have a real appreciation for the power of cross dressing, and it is a beautiful thing to watch.

I sat quietly on the side of the bed as he began. (I refer to “Paul” and “he” even as the transformation begins.) With a kind of ritual trance attention, he stripped naked and considered himself in front of the long mirror. His breasts are small, but not small enough as not to betray another gender, so he took up what looked like white bandages and began wrapping them around his chest. Once his breasts were bound tightly, the tan button-down shirt looked flawless on him. I didn’t expect the next part for a night out cruising the town. From another drawer, he pulled out a black harness and a medium sized flesh tone dildo. Already fitted for his hips, he snapped the harness on and inserted his cock into the rings that hold it tight. Then, there were snug-fitting briefs and jeans baggy enough to reveal a bump but not a raging hard-on. He laced up his punk rock boots, combed back his inch-long dark hair, and he was ready.

His plan was nothing more than walking the streets on Friday night, eyeing the beautiful people, riding the train, and simply being Paul. Maybe one day Paul will want to make love to me. I would embrace his cross dressing, and him, in all his masculine glory.