Gay Play Toys

I am in my seventies, and I would like to tell you younger guys out there that gay men don’t have to stop having good sex in their older years. Even if things don’t always work the way they used to, there is a lot you can do to keep it up, so to speak. Sex toys can help.

Most of the time, we both can get erections. They aren’t the strong, long-lasting kind like I had in my twenties, but they feel good and can usually lead to satisfaction. There have been times when we wanted a little more, so we have tried Viagra and some of those herbal things for stamina. We both are finding that the drug route isn’t really for us.

We just bought a strap on cock for men, which has been fun. You don’t have to be hard to wear it. It is a great sex toy for gay men like us because my partner likes to be penetrated and I can’t always do that for him if I am not more than half-mast. This way we can take it easy and have a good time for as long as we like. We have been partners for 24 years, so it is nice to have someone kind and understanding to explore these things together.

I am a straight guy, but once in a while I wind up in a little unexpected “trouble.” I checked out the porn theater not too long ago. Sometimes I just go in there once in a while to see a movie for a couple bucks and beat off one time before I have to go home and deal with the family. For some reason, though, I just wasn’t feeling it this time and I was about to leave. The place was full of gay men this time. This one guy kind of followed me out, but then he walked right past me onto the side street. I dunno, I guess I just kinda followed him then, too. What the fuck, I thought. I passed by and he was in a dark corner by a dumpster. He was so bold – he whipped it out right there, squirted a splash of lubricant in his hand from a tube and started stroking himself while he stared right at me. I could tell he was a real fag and wanted my dick, so I decided to give it. It seemed like no one really goes down this alley much, so it didn’t seem too risky. I didn’t even say anything to him, just took out my cock. He did the same routine with the lubricant and started jacking me. It didn’t take long. I came real quick and zipped up while he just stood there and started to finish himself off. I love my wife and I’m definitely not gay, but there is something about getting stroked off in some freaky situation by a guy’s hand sometimes.

I guess I’m telling. Well, I’m telling you on this message board because I am a little unsure what my friends in my gay men’s social group would think.

I have been into gay sex toys since forever ago. My boyfriend and I play together with our cock rings, butt plugs, anal vibrators; jack off sleeves, the whole deal. Lately I have been having certain thoughts and it led me to pick up something that can’t really be called a gay sex toy. I felt really hot for a “real skin pussy,” so I bought one. I can’t tell you how yummy it looked to enter it for the first time – I’ve never been with a woman in real life, BTW. I feel like I’m having a secret affair—lovingly applying my best lubricant, pumping away and having explosive orgasms with this thing. A lot.

Ok, I know it’s just a toy pussy and I know I am a seriously gay man. I feel kind of dirty and maybe a bit embarrassed. I feel like I should play twice as intensely with the very gay sex toys to compensate. But it makes me so horny to imagine crossing the line. I don’t think I’ll give up on my secret little toy pussy soon. Is that so wrong? I’m curious to hear what you guys have to say.

Thanks,
“Experimental” in Pittsburgh

Well, I’ve always been pretty much of an oral guy for most of my life as a gay man. I am still young, but I have to admit I’ve been around the clubs and have managed to suck a lot of cock by now. I’m not complaining.

Doing anything anal never really appealed to me- not even with my most trusted boyfriends. I don’t know what did it, but I was looking online at some gay sex toys and I just got curious. I haven’t explored with a partner yet, but so far I think I have found my new favorite thing.

I bought an Anal Trainer Kit (Colt), and it has really been a good addition to my personal sex life. It has three nice, pliable butt plugs. I wasn’t intimidated because the smallest one is only an inch around at its widest. I know that a lot of gay men are really into size, but I also knew it is best for me to start out a little slow. Now I can take the biggest plug with no problem. It’s really a delicious feeling that I wish I’d tried sooner.

I had the same worries when I was younger! I agree with the above poster, your sexuality is really your own to discover. No one can tell you “what” you are just by knowing what your experiences have been. You sound like you are still in the stage where you are experimenting and learning what feels good. Trust me, you’ll try all kinds of things in your life and trying something new doesn’t mean you are that sexuality for the rest of your life. If more people were honest about their sexuality you’d realize that most people try a little bit of everything while they sort out the whole sex thing.

I had a girlfriend once and never even considered that I might be gay. One day she suggested we try some anal sex toys and I realized how much I liked anal sex and anal vibrators and butt plugs. I struggled with the “Does that make me gay?” question a lot back then. Now I’ve come to realize it’s not a matter of do I like men or do I like women. It’s a matter of I really like anal sex. Period.

I’m not big on worrying about labels myself. I’m a ‘If it feels good do it” sort of guy. If you really want to label yourself it’s really up to you. I think most people would say you are bi, but that doesn’t really mean much. A lot of people would say that you’re gay. Others would say something like you’re not really gay if you had sex with a woman. Everyone has their own litmus test when it comes to these things.

I think you need to experiment more. After only 3 or 4 intimate experiences, of varying degrees, you’re still figuring things out. There’s no mathematical equation out there when it comes to sexuality. It’s not like, liking muscles= gay or not liking to go down on a chick= gay. Plenty of straight men don’t like performing oral sex on their partner. That alone doesn’t make you gay. (But maybe you should try it once just to see if you really don’t like it? Just saying.) Plenty of gay men don’t like being on the receiving end of anal sex. Plenty of very gay men can also appreciate a hot chick. Neither of those things automatically makes you straight.

Go, experiment, have fun with it. Worry about deciding what label fits you best after you’ve tried everything out there you can try. Maybe all you need if a partner who is really into some sex toys so you can have all the experimenting you need with one partner! Sex toys are a great way to mix it up and keep your sex life fresh and different, regardless of the sex of your partner.

Let’s be honest, most guys are going to give a resounding “Yes!” to that question. Does that mean there is nothing you can do if nature hasn’t blessed you in that department? Not at all. There are gay toys out there that can help you out.

A cock ring is the single easiest gay sex toy you can use to make yourself bigger and harder longer. The flexible ring slips over the head of your penis and gets pushed down to the base of the shaft. The cock ring changes the pressure of blood flow to and from the penis, making you swell quicker and bigger.

The other often overlooked gay sex toy is a penis pump. No, no, no- this is not some scam. Penis pumps are never going to do what a lot of con men try and promise. Using this sex toy won’t permanently make you longer and thinker- but it can give you some pretty impressive temporary results.

You only get one body, there are plenty of things you can do to make it the body you want without surgery. Gay sex toys can help improve your size and how you feel about yourself.

Well Rascal, good to see you on here again! I’m so glad you like the Pjur, it’s one of my favorites, and I’m glad it solved your problem. As a disclaimer though, I have to stress to any others reading this, that while Pjur Back Door Anal Glide is fantastic my own lube of choice is the Boy Butter H2O. I understand some gentlemen prefer a silicone based lube or a water based lubricant, but it’s a good habit to keep a variety of lubes stocked. I would also like to note that Gay Sex toys and lubes have come a long way in the past few years and we’re no longer relegated to making due with traditional women’s lubes, vibes, plugs or beads. A WHOLE new branch of the sex toy industry has emerged to rival the straights! If you’re here you’ve probably checked it out already. If not though, do be sure to check out the Gay/Lesbian section of this site, and just like my new buddy rascal, come on back to the forum if you have any questions or need a recommendation. Hope to chat again soon Rascal!

I am a gay man unapologetically in love with my sexuality. I have ALWAYS loved heading down to my local sex shop to peruse the new leather daddy gear, the expansive selection of anal vibes and the real looking but-never-real-enough porn-star inspired dildos. Well the other day I needed a new lubricant for a partner of mine who was a bit more sensitive to my standard lube than the other boys. Well, I went right down to my local shop after buying groceries to prepare a nice romantic dinner at home. I needed a new lubricant, and I asked my sexy little Dominican friend behind the counter for some suggestions, but he was useless. He kept suggesting Boy Butter, or Astro-glide, but I assured him I had tried them both to no success. That’s when I came home and began searching the web. I landed here on Tabu toys and found the Forum. I posed my question the same way I had at the sex shop on a lark, and before you could say Carson Kresley is overexposed, I already had suggestions from fellow aficionados who had encountered similar problems. My solution ultimately came from my new friend Terynation001, who suggested I try Pjur Back Door anal Glide, to MUCH success. So while I hate to do this to my local shop, I think I may have a found a new home for my sex toy shopping!

Steve and Edward did everything in concert.

Even before they were dating, when they had just been college freshmen and their friends had tried to make sure the two gay sandy-haired guys were in the same bars, went to the same movies, had ‘just happened’ to be at the same parties, the guys seemed to do everything the same. They had that under-hand way of holding a cigarette (way back when they both smoked), they wore the same brand of Levis button-flys and they both had rather spectacular little asses. They seemed destined, by their actions, words and how they were growing to feel about one another.

Opposites might very well attract, but this was not the case in Steve and Edward’s relationship.

It came as no surprise then that as Steve opened the box from Edward, Edward was passed a present from Steve, neither one having a birthday this day, and this breezy Tuesday in September not their anniversary either. As Steve opened the little black box he sat back in surprise and delight. Edward opened his own and squealed.

“I can’t believe it,” Edward said.

“This is too much,” Steve agreed.

Each man dipped his long fingered hand down into the tissue paper and extracted a thin simple black cockring from the box in their lap. Littered around each piece of leather, were mini ‘pouchy’ lube packets, just an extra little special something each guy thought they might use with the new cock toy.

“Did I ever mention a cockring?” Steve asked.

“No,” Edward said. “Did I?”

“I mean I’ve had one before, but I just thought it would be a nice gift for yo…”

“Same with me,” Edward said. “I mean we’ve only just gotten into toys…” and with this he stopped, leaned in and kissed his boyfriend on the lips. Retreating, he continued “…believe me, you don’t really need one.”

“Well neither do you,” Steve agreed and again Edward squealed and they both laughed.

“I can’t fucking believe you bought me the exact same cock ring I bought you.”

“And the lube, don’t forget the lube.”

“Jesus, Ed, this is getting kinda spooky.”

“Yeah, now you read my mind with gay sex toys,” the smaller man agreed. “I mean how much more proof do we need that this is destined?”

A silence descended as the men looked at one another, shuttered (at the same time, of course) and then smiled wide. Having both been in and out of a whole host of relationships in the past five years, Steve and Edward had been reluctant at first to try again, but really the more their friends pushed them together, the more it seemed unavoidable that they date. The whirlwind that had been these past few months had left both men breathless and assured they were in the middle of something bigger than the both of them.

Did this cock ring purchase cement it for sure?

“Wanna?” Steve asked.

“Fuck yeah,” Edward said.

Shimmying out of jeans, tight briefs (white for Edward, blue for Steve), the boyfriends were soon sitting in their chairs facing each other bare-assed and semi-erect.

“Together, right?” Steve asked.

“Definfuckingly!”

Steve and Edward both sat back, spread their legs and ripped open one pouch of lube each. The men began massaging their cocks, both careful not to get so hard that the ring wouldn’t easily slip down their now dewy shafts.

“Yes?”

“Yes,” Edward agreed and both men began to smooth their cock ring present down their shiney cocks, watching each other as they went slowly about the process.

Wet as they were, working the rings down it was soon apparent from the head of each man’s cock that a single spot of precome was evident. Not that either man was surprised at so quick a reaction; Steve had simply never known any man (or woman, yes there had been a couple of them in his life, probably the only thing he and Edward had not done the same) to get him this hard this quick. The same was true for Edward, as he secured the cock ring down and snug he held his cock out for his lover and showed him the pin prick of come staining his purple head.

“At the same time?” Steve asked.

“Wouldn’t have it any other way,” Edward answered.

With the cock rings tightly secure, the lube nice and juicy, facing each other and their balls tight, hard and filling, Steve and Edward played with their new presents, tickled their cocks and watched each other come in concert.